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ankur_113

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Hi,
I and my spouse both are in canada but not living together yet. We got married in canada, but we havent meet eachother’s parents yet, as both parents are in India. So do we need support letter from them?
i have included one from her relatives living in canada and one from my relatives.

please let me know if I need one from parents? And yes, then do you have any idea what to write? ( we never met eachother’s parents)
 

MJSPARV

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Hi,
I and my spouse both are in canada but not living together yet. We got married in canada, but we havent meet eachother’s parents yet, as both parents are in India. So do we need support letter from them?
i have included one from her relatives living in canada and one from my relatives.

please let me know if I need one from parents? And yes, then do you have any idea what to write? ( we never met eachother’s parents)
Do you mean a letter of financial support or that they support your marriage? Why are you not living together if you're both in Canada? I'd guess that unless you have a compelling reason like jobs or university attendance in different places (and perhaps a plan for moving in together) that's going to be a huge red flag for IRCC. If the answer is that you don't consider yourselves fully married until you've met the parents then I'd imagine if you told IRCC that they'd say then your marriage isn't genuine or at least requires a lot of scrutiny.
 

ankur_113

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we are married, but we dont live together because of her university, she lives in Alberta and I'm in Ontario, after her graduation she is going to move here with me. do you still think this is red flag from them? and I'm planning to submit Outland application since we dont live together yet.
here I was talking about relationship support letter from friends/family (not financial). our parents live in India, and she came here on study permit in 2020, we got married in 2021 in canada. we know eachother's parents but just that we haven't met, because they are in india and they couldnt come here to attend wedding, so in that case Do I need to include support letter from parents? or letter from relatives who are already here is ok?
 

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I think a letter from the parents or relatives can't hurt. I attached screenshots of my texts with my sisters-in-law with our application, but, in hindsight, we probably should have attached something from the parents as well.
I don't think your situation would necessarily be a red flag if you explain it well. You could say something about the fact that while she is still studying in Alberta, you are establishing a home for your family in Ontario, and maybe also demonstrate that you see each other regularly when you can (weekends and school breaks).
Why outland application though, if you both are in Canada? Is your wife planning to go back to India after she graduates?
 

MJSPARV

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we are married, but we dont live together because of her university, she lives in Alberta and I'm in Ontario, after her graduation she is going to move here with me. do you still think this is red flag from them? and I'm planning to submit Outland application since we dont live together yet.
here I was talking about relationship support letter from friends/family (not financial). our parents live in India, and she came here on study permit in 2020, we got married in 2021 in canada. we know eachother's parents but just that we haven't met, because they are in india and they couldnt come here to attend wedding, so in that case Do I need to include support letter from parents? or letter from relatives who are already here is ok?
I'm not an expert, but I think since there's a clear reason that's naturally time limited as to why you're apart it's not a big issue. Having been long distance for a while also because of school, I hope for you and your spouse that it's a short time as long distance is very hard! Good luck with your application!
 

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I'm not an expert, but I think since there's a clear reason that's naturally time limited as to why you're apart it's not a big issue.
I also will not claim expertise but would suggest that other relationship factors - whether arranged marriage, how met and relationship developed if not, how much time actually spent together, wedding type and who attended, etc.

If arranged marriage, best for those with experience to comment, but does sound out of ordinary for families to not have met (and in some cultures participation of families in ceremonies very important).

Living apart during studies perhaps less of an issue on its own but context will matter. I suspect there is some concern at IRCC about students trying to get PR status to study at cheaper domestic rate - of course if studies are almost completed that may be less of a factor.

So whether these are red flags or a total number of yellow cards (football metaphor), it is possible would get extra scrutiny.
 

ankur_113

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Guys, Thank you all for answering. But you guys have gone little off topic. I’m doing outland application because we are not living together yet only until her gradution. She only has 2 semesters left so not big issue.

my only question was that Do I need to attach relationship support letter from eachother’s parents if we haven’t met them personally (as they live in India)? Thou we usually video call to them and talk.
Also I’m putting 2 letters from our relatives who are already in canada
 

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Guys, Thank you all for answering. But you guys have gone little off topic. I’m doing outland application because we are not living together yet only until her gradution. She only has 2 semesters left so not big issue.

my only question was that Do I need to attach relationship support letter from eachother’s parents if we haven’t met them personally (as they live in India)? Thou we usually video call to them and talk.
Also I’m putting 2 letters from our relatives who are already in canada
Was this an arranged marriage and how much time have you spent in person during your relationship and after marriage? Who attended your wedding? Did either of your parents apply for TRVs to attend the wedding? Did you have plans to get married in India? If you have lived together in the past and are temporarily apart do to studies, if you had a longterm in person relationship and had a small wedding without parents, etc. that would not raise as many red flags as an arranged marriage with no parents at the wedding and without the ability to live together right after marriage. Was there a reason why you needed to get married when you did versus getting married when you then move in together? IRCC knows that many have courthouse weddings to start the sponsorship process with plan on having the “real” wedding later on. IRCC usually wants to verify that they are approving the wedding that all families and friends will refer to as your wedding date.
 

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Guys, Thank you all for answering. But you guys have gone little off topic. I’m doing outland application because we are not living together yet only until her gradution. She only has 2 semesters left so not big issue.

my only question was that Do I need to attach relationship support letter from eachother’s parents if we haven’t met them personally (as they live in India)? Thou we usually video call to them and talk.
Also I’m putting 2 letters from our relatives who are already in canada
With respect, your question is off the mark and you're missing the point. It won't hurt to have support letter from parents- might even help a bit.

BUT - it's not going to make much difference either way and the bigger questions are those raised in this thread.

But sure, include the support letter.
 
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MJSPARV

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With respect, your question is off the mark and you're missing the point. It won't hurt to have support letter from parents- might even help a bit.

BUT - it's not going to make much difference either way and the bigger questions are those raised in this thread.

But sure, include the support letter.
Things I can think of that you could do that might help strengthen this weak area of your application:

- apply for TRVs for your parents, even though they might not get approved/it might take a long time it would be more concrete evidence that the family is trying to meet their new in laws

- you and your wife make plans, even if they're for next summer, to visit India and meet the parents. Similarly if there were any trips to/from India for you or your wife or either set of parents that were cancelled due to covid mention those and perhaps include documentation.

- include screenshots/call history of video calls between you and your wife and your parents/in-laws

- if you're not already, visit each other as often as possible and document the visits.


- write a really good thorough explanation letter about this and make sure you write a thorough relationship history. This is probably the most important thing in my opinion.
 
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ankur_113

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Things I can think of that you could do that might help strengthen this weak area of your application:

- apply for TRVs for your parents, even though they might not get approved/it might take a long time it would be more concrete evidence that the family is trying to meet their new in laws

- you and your wife make plans, even if they're for next summer, to visit India and meet the parents. Similarly if there were any trips to/from India for you or your wife or either set of parents that were cancelled due to covid mention those and perhaps include documentation.

- include screenshots/call history of video calls between you and your wife and your parents/in-laws

- if you're not already, visit each other as often as possible and document the visits.


- write a really good thorough explanation letter about this and make sure you write a thorough relationship history. This is probably the most important thing in my opinion.
great advise! Thank you very much
 

ankur_113

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@MJSPARV hey, would you mind check this letter, what do you think about this? this is what I'm planning to get from my parents, and similar to this from her parents. and i will also attach phone/video call history. please let me know your ideas and Thank you for your help.

We are Sponsor's parents, we are writing this letter to give you brief explanation on why we couldn’t attend my son’s wedding and also supporting his relationship with our daughter in law.

We both hold visitor visa to Canada, and we really wanted to attend our son’s wedding, but during second half of 2021, covid situation in India was very bad, we were not fully vaccinated and also flights were banned from India to Canada for non residents. We had no idea, how long it would take to get rid of covid-19 from both countries, so we allowed our son and daughter in law to have their wedding in Canada, we witnessed their wedding through video call, gave them blessings. They both are also planning to visit us in India sometime next year, 2022 during Christmas break or earlier possible.

Also, we would like to mention that Agnya is very sweet girl, she often video calls us and sometime we also have group audio/video calls with my son and daughter-in law. She is very caring and we are so happy to have her in our family.
 

ankur_113

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Was this an arranged marriage and how much time have you spent in person during your relationship and after marriage? Who attended your wedding? Did either of your parents apply for TRVs to attend the wedding? Did you have plans to get married in India? If you have lived together in the past and are temporarily apart do to studies, if you had a longterm in person relationship and had a small wedding without parents, etc. that would not raise as many red flags as an arranged marriage with no parents at the wedding and without the ability to live together right after marriage. Was there a reason why you needed to get married when you did versus getting married when you then move in together? IRCC knows that many have courthouse weddings to start the sponsorship process with plan on having the “real” wedding later on. IRCC usually wants to verify that they are approving the wedding that all families and friends will refer to as your wedding date.
it wasn't arrange marriage, we met online and got married after year, throughout we travelled 4 times to meet each other, yes we have plans to get married to do big ceremony in December, 2022 with all of our relatives. and TBH we got married here to start her sponsorship application, but its not like none knows about this. all our relatives, friends know about this, we had small ceremony but still I'm attaching photos with few relatives and attaching supporting proof showing our announcement from social media, yes our parents did not attend because they are in canada, but they all know about this, and we often call eachother's family.