- Oct 13, 2015
- Visa Office......
- Job Offer........
- App. Filed.......
- AOR Received.
- File Transfer...
- Med's Done....
- Passport Req..
- VISA ISSUED...
My husband I were expecting a wait... We knew we wanted to get married since 2013, but for the sake of this process, we delayed our wedding by two years to ensure we had no issues with this relationship... So we got married in 2015, the expectation was for me to come back to Canada and apply to sponsor him and my step kids right away but finances didn't turn up and things kept getting in the way. We applied early November 2015 and we feel pretty confident that the kids will be starting the new school year here in September.ryanr said:Sometimes things does be slow in processing, and all of a sudden you waiting, and waiting... and BOOM! it done! and well other times things does take longer.
Wah yuh go do, its a process, like it or not, if it eh kill meh, or result in a divorce, then it sure as well will make us stronger in the relationship. After we all finish with this, I wish you never have to spend more than a week away from our spouses (shet, I eh letting she out of meh sight!much less a week, or a weekend lol) Or may we never get impatience with any Govt process. I mean we would have been through hell and back.
We just have to wait...I mean we know what we was getting into (at least I knew vs my wife).
But I have a few questions, and look for your advise.
Q1. Did some of you expect to take a period of time, and have to go through all of this? (I'm not meaning the extra wait time, or bumps in the road).
I ask this, because I knew what was expected at least 6 on the minimum, 9 on the max, and FK~! or a year if *censored word* goes down hill, and we have to appeal a negative decision.
Q2. How did that conversation go?
I tried talking to my wife about this, and set the expectation. I believe she understood the expectations from the beginning. But she being in the US, and as you know the the process to landing, is like fkn 3-6 months...she forgets that each country has their own times and process.
Q3. When you visit your spouse what do you do? Do you tend to spend a few days inside and not seeing the sun (you know what i mean). Or do you go out and see family, friends and do things on your own?
For her and I - we alternate locations. Trip 1, I bus, plane, drive to NJ/NY see her, and her family, and mine. We hang out, go places, dinner, do family intertwined things. On Trip 2, she takes a bus to Buffalo, I drive to Buff, and we seriously don't come out for a solid day. Then go do stuff, dinner, sight seeing, walks, or making breakfast in the hotel room etc... Then we alternative back, or change up a bit. For the most part, I try to force a 3rd trip to Buffalo, this way its just her and I, no family to bother us, and we can spend quality time together wo inerruptions
The topic of how long the waiting process is never goes well... we tend to argue when we focus on it... So we try our best to not really discuss it. He might have already been here by now if certain things hadn't happened and they are a bone of contention. He also doesn't understand that the government isn't just going to let him waltz into the country. My mom passed away just shortly after we submitted our application, and we felt the distance a lot then. I felt bad because I would cry all the time, and he was like I wish I could be there with you... and that would get us vex all over about the process.
I see my husband once a year for a month. I grew up in Canada, and going back home to Guyana is tough. Usually the first two weeks we are happy as can be... and we spend time as a family. By the third week, I am over Guyana, and so that plays out in arguments because I get homesick for Canada. By the last week we are back to the status quo because we know time soon done. 4 weeks is never enough time, but it's all that we can afford. I wish he were in a Visa exempt country so he could come to Canada. I feel it would be cheaper him coming here, rather than me going there, but alas, that is not our story.
I suffer from anxiety and so when our application wasn't being processed in the beginning, it fueled a lot discord between us. We both wanted results but there was nothing either of us could do to make it happen. Now are application is moving along at a good clip and we are very hopeful to get a decision made soon. In the mean time while I wait, I try to enjoy my last moments of being a single mother and I try and spend lots of time with my own son, and also by myself. Once my husband arrives with the kids i will be a wife and a mother of three for real....