no one can help me? at all? what the heck?
1. Conjugal won't fly, there is no impediment to marriage, but if you wish to waste your time and money, go for it.
2. Your basic choices are marriage, or common/law, which would require to live together in a "marriage like state" for 1 year to be considered common/law. at that point you could be sponsored and an in-canada application could be submitted. It would take approximately a year to receive PR status, about 8/9 months to AIP at which point you could apply for an open work permit. Note you can not work without the work permit.
3. Apply as a skilled worker, about 2&1/2 year years to process if you qualify.
4. Obtain a work permit with an employer who is willing to apply to HRSDC for Labour Market Opinion (LMO) that there are not any Canadians or PRs available for the job, the employer has advertised extensively in Canada, and the wages and working conditions are normal for the area.
5. STart your reading at www.cic.gc.ca