submitting chat conversations good or bad ??

[KSCM]

Hello all,
I am gathering all my chat conversations to submit and I was wondering if it looks good or bad for us if we send any that show us arguing?
Will it show that we have a real relationship even to show the normal arguing? Or will it be bad?

[MandiF]

I think it depends on what you were arguing about or how much of a big deal it is to you and how much chat you are sending. I am sure there were some snappy bits in my chat logs I sent in, but it was pages and pages long and really there were more other conversations like love and chatting and stuff, so in the balance it wasn't the main thing in the chat logs.

[Baloo]

Hello all,
I am gathering all my chat conversations to submit and I was wondering if it looks good or bad for us if we send any that show us arguing?
Will it show that we have a real relationship even to show the normal arguing? Or will it be bad?

You can be selective; I have never seen a mandatory requirement to submit every single chat that has taken place.

[lama21]

Dont put the argument chats too much...just limit it 2-3, i mean u never know, but just play safe , like for me i guess i added 1-2 or may be none. Yeah just be careful and goodluck !

Hello all,
I am gathering all my chat conversations to submit and I was wondering if it looks good or bad for us if we send any that show us arguing?
Will it show that we have a real relationship even to show the normal arguing? Or will it be bad?

[CharlieD10]

Be selective, it's ok to do that.

I did send one email I wrote after we had had a fight, if only because we rarely email each other, and everything else was chat logs.  It was, however, such a heartfelt email, I felt it was OK to include it, as it clearly shows the depth of feelings we engender in each other.

[canadianwoman]

I agree with the other posters - just send a selection of your chats. I wouldn't put any that show you arguing - you never know how picky your visa officer will be (or if it goes to an appeal, the Minister's counsel and judge).

[missmini]

me too i agree....make a selection of ur chats throughout a big range of time, read them before u send...do write a cover letter stating it's just a selection...if they need more they will ask...but chats r there to put the relationship in a good spot...even if for u the argument was nothing, u don't know how they judge and how picky they r...

[KSCM]

Thanks everyone !!!

[pseudowolf]

Sorry to take over your thread but I have a chat log question as well......

My fiancee and i don't type chat, we video skype so little to no evidence of type chatting.  I know we can print off the logs of times, dates and durations but the thing is we leave skype open all night while we sleep so we can say good morning and goodbye when we leave and at least not feel so alone if we wake in the middle of the night (cue the violins! LOL).  My question then is: our logs will show duration times of 6 - 13+ hours every day and my concern is whether it looks genuine? 

It's so frustrating that whenever we are together we have to think about "proof"  Frankly we are really having to work at it not affecting our relationship - finding balance b/t caring about how things look and living our lives together but apart.  We'll be so glad when this is over!!!!

Thanks for any and all advice!

-Wolf

[Baloo]

Sorry to take over your thread but I have a chat log question as well......

My fiancee and i don't type chat, we video skype so little to no evidence of type chatting.  I know we can print off the logs of times, dates and durations but the thing is we leave skype open all night while we sleep so we can say good morning and goodbye when we leave and at least not feel so alone if we wake in the middle of the night (cue the violins! LOL).  My question then is: our logs will show duration times of 6 - 13+ hours every day and my concern is whether it looks genuine? 

It's so frustrating that whenever we are together we have to think about "proof"  Frankly we are really having to work at it not affecting our relationship - finding balance b/t caring about how things look and living our lives together but apart.  We'll be so glad when this is over!!!!

Thanks for any and all advice!

-Wolf

You could take snapshots of the screen when skype is active and submit those.
Be careful of what is on screen at the time.

It is crazy that CIC want genuine relationships, but they "force" a different situation by requiring proof from couples.

[pseudowolf]

Be careful of what is on screen at the time.

LMAO  Where is your mind Baloo?!?!?!?!  Oh wait, maybe that's just me..... lol

Anyway, thanks for the advice and that is a good idea.  i just don't want it to seem excessive and make it look like we're trying too hard.  We also have it open when we play WoW together so between the gaming and the sleeping the durations on skype are HUGE!

[pinklady]

Just write a small note explaining why the chat times are so long, it makes sense to me so it should make sense to an IO.

[Baloo]

LMAO  Where is your mind Baloo?!?!?!?!  Oh wait, maybe that's just me..... lol

Anyway, thanks for the advice and that is a good idea.  i just don't want it to seem excessive and make it look like we're trying too hard.  We also have it open when we play WoW together so between the gaming and the sleeping the durations on skype are HUGE!

I saw a skype chat screen grab a while ago, it had the video on display and that was fine - the problem was the guy was text chatting with a different woman at the same time, it was not the sort of chat you would publish !
When his CL lady started assembling the application, the relationship ended rather quickly.

So it was YOUR mind - LOL

[Ines]

Sorry to take over your thread but I have a chat log question as well......

My fiancee and i don't type chat, we video skype so little to no evidence of type chatting.  I know we can print off the logs of times, dates and durations but the thing is we leave skype open all night while we sleep so we can say good morning and goodbye when we leave and at least not feel so alone if we wake in the middle of the night (cue the violins! LOL).  My question then is: our logs will show duration times of 6 - 13+ hours every day and my concern is whether it looks genuine? 

It's so frustrating that whenever we are together we have to think about "proof"  Frankly we are really having to work at it not affecting our relationship - finding balance b/t caring about how things look and living our lives together but apart.  We'll be so glad when this is over!!!!

Thanks for any and all advice!

-Wolf

I was thinking about the same thing. We do the same my husband & I. Not especially in the night but during the day in week ends. Most of the time he's studying and I am doing many tasks like cooking, watching tv, reading, playing. I take the computer wherever I am in the apt so that we stay together all the time. Sometimes I fall asleep and he wakes me up before he goes to bed. This is the only thing that is keeping us strong. And because we're using skype all the time we're writing to each other less except for sending hearts or kisses, or links.
I think we'll have just to explain to them that. Every relationship is different and everyone has thir own way to stay in touch and maintain the relationship. There is no formula for that.

[pseudowolf]

Thanks all! 

And Baloo, I'll try to drag my mind from the gutter......lol

-Wolf