Stress in your relationship?

[locolynn]

Yes, that is true! But that was AFTER we had already been separated for 3 years...enough was enough. Lol!

Lynn

Oh and P.S. even though we live together (or maybe because we do ) this process has nearly destroyed us. We are NOT even close to the same starry eyed couple we were when we started this process....

patience patience patience

locolynn

[rjessome]

Yes, that is true! But that was AFTER we had already been separated for 3 years...enough was enough. Lol!

Lynn

And had a child too, right?  I think I'd lose my mind.  Hats off.

[mel_n]

I think 95% of all couples who go through this process experience stress in their relationship in one way or another. And I think that stress experienced is equally legitimate and valid for all.

Personally, in paper, our case seems like cool summer breeze (we're both together). But just two months in (plus the time preparing the application) we've experienced a lot of stress because we have invested much of our future in this process and have circumstances that make it a process with much more unknown, than known. When something is not going our way, we second guess ourselves because we've taken such a big gamble in this process.

Undoubtedly, the circumstances in some cases are truly heartbreaking and testing. I am in awe about many of the people I've read about here... many years apart, away from their children, facing rejection. It humbles my stress, but it doesn't diminish it.

[Gemauru]

There's always some stress on the process...
We're here together, but we can't leave the country
(his daugther lives overseas they're very close)...
I was used to "cut" the winter (it really depresses me) going away for a month to some sunny place...
His "work" options being "zero" doesn't help at all...

There's love, there's hope... but sometimes it really gets you...

I can't imagine those couples going through this, living apart