Hmmm I hope you are being at least somewhat sarcastic, the stated processing time for SG is currently at 20 months meaning you are still well within the time frame of the office. As we have learned every case is totally different so just relax go with the flow.
You don't say what month in 2009 you met your wife or if it was an online meeting or in person, but giving you the benefit of the doubt and saying it was mid year, that would mean according to your dates above you've known your wife for perhaps two years? Mid 2009 to now, mid 2011 and from what you write or what I take from it, you've spent a grand total of 6 weeks in person with her?
Unless you have spent more time than the six weeks you've referenced I am not sure exactly how extensive the "proof" you sent could be, so I think under those circumstances you are really have not been waiting an overly long period of time in the grand scheme of things I mean of course.
Also you do give very minor details about the relationships so it is hard to say more than just an off the cuff guess at things.
I am aware that January 20th until now is nowhere near 20 months, I was curious about how it's possible for someone else to get it done in 4 months and I just added in some basic info about my case on top.
It's definitely true that I haven't spent years and years with my wife in person. It's impossible, I'm a middle class and overtaxed Canadian, I can't just take 6 months off at a time to be with her. If I'm unemployed and broke, that's probably a large dagger in our case file as well.
With regards to proof, we have the usual, phone records, msn chat logs, emails, snail mail letters, money transfer receipts etc.
With our wedding, we had a whirlwind tour. I arrived in Saigon with my father (from Toronto), and we quickly headed north to my wife's home province of Dak Nong, we spoke to the local priest to ensure that we could have a church wedding the following day. I also had relatives from Michigan accompany us to our wedding as well (they're originally from Can Tho, my mother's side). After our first wedding ceremony, we had a day of rest.
The following day we traveled back south to Can Tho and had a reception there as well with guests primarily from my mother's side as well as my new in-laws.
The day after that we traveled further south to Bac Lieu (my father's side), for another reception. Once again my Michigan relatives, my father, and my in-laws were there.
Two days after that we traveled to Nha Trang for our honeymoon.
After that we went back to visit our relatives in Saigon, Bac Lieu, and Can Tho before I had to fly back to the daily grind in Toronto.
Months pass and we kept our relationship strong despite the distance between us. I flew back in October 2010, and we were able to spend more time together.
Finally submitted our application in Canada in December 2010, was approved and transferred to Singapore on January 20th 2011 (it was a 16 month wait time back then).
The only change that I've noticed was at one point it said Medical Papers Received, but it has reverted back to Application Received.
I am aware that one of the big issues is that the Canadian Government doesn't want an influx of scam marriages, although plenty of them get through anyway. I would like to believe a scam marriage would involve fairly wealthy people from outside of Canada (my in-laws do "well" but are not rich). And for whatever profit a potential scammer would gain, having their father tag along for the ride would cut into the profits sharply too. And the odds of bringing in American relatives to 3 different cities for the various wedding activities would be a stretch.
Ultimately I understand that this is still fairly early in the proceedings, and I am more impatient than I am upset.