the people i live with here, the lady's son was in your shoes and it was not an easy process. first they refuse her as an american, to cross the border to come with him as they said she wouldn't leave canada after her stay. so they got married and the following day met the same immigration officer who finally allowed her to stay, it took 5-6 yrs of processing her papers correctly in order for her to have permanent residency, and she have gotten 2 kids since, which family allowance is still owed. its a little bit of a ordeal and its good to get things done right but getting help will be difficult. (it was for her anyway) first time they allowed her medicare and all they never told her and it expired without her knowledge, so she had to repay and re-apply. you really have to make sure you check on everything.
u may have to get married if u really love each other
