Need suggestions and experiences from all of you, sponsoring spouse from India

[Dominion]

Hi,

  I am an Indian who came in 2009 in Canada with work visa( Sent by my Indian Company) , in year 2010 April I met with my wife (Now she is my wife)  because of a common friend of us . We became very good friend initially and then we haven fallen in love with each other. within few months I moved to her place and as her mother likes me also so we started living together, In the month of Aug I proposed her officially with a diamond ring. We had really good time , But then I had to leave the country and go to India because my company sent me back. But while I was in India I could not stay without her, I started missing her a lot so I left my job which was a very good one, and came back to Canada in 2011 march as a visitor. We are living together as before again. She is sponsoring all my regular expenses. As I dont have any job since March. But now we are married, We did not invite anyone in our marriage. It was held in a 'wedding chappel', her mom and the lady of the weeding chappel were two witnesses. We did not invite anybody because I dont have such frnds in Canada and neither she has. Moreover we want to keep this reception for later time maybe end of 2012 by when I will get a job in Canada( If everything works fine) and will be ready reception. We also have a plan to throw a grand reception in India where we will follow all hindu rituals and my parents , my relatives and frnds will be with us.

  Now the main concern is that my wife is a christian from Pakistan , 7 years older than me and divorcee. She is also separated for 4 years from her first husband and she does not have any kid and contact with her first husband,. I am a Hindu and never married before.

I am going to submit an overseas sponsorship application very soon to Delhi.
As a matter of fact my parents are aware of my relation , and her mom knows it all.
Documents I am submitting:
1) Marriage certificate
2) PCC from Canada and india
3) Bills of all the gift that I bought for her including the wedding ring
4) our pics together in Niagra trip( With my mother-in-law and wife)
5) Call history of her home phone which shows regular calls from canada to India when I was in India.
6) Joint Bank account
7) Proof that we are living together.
8)Pics of us from her birth day
9) Reference letters from my 3 frnds and mother in law

and there are some more.....

I sacrificed my job because of our relation..So it means everything to me.
I want to know your suggestions and experiences on this kind of cases...Plsssssssssssssss share your experiences about what is my chance here to get the PR.

[CharlieD10]

You need to be aware that your "history" throws up several red flags:

1- age difference

2- religious incompatibility

3 - deviation from cultural/social expectations (small wedding, marrying outside religion, marrying older person, marriage not arranged etc)

4 - quick development of your relationship

5 - limited contact between your spouse and your family (you don't say if she has developed a relationship with her in-laws)

My advice? Address all of these things, and any other things that might look "odd" or "strange" based on your cultures and religions in your relationship essay (where they ask the sponsor and applicant to write about any other details they want to add to convince the visa officer that the relationship is genuine).  Write about why these things don't matter in your relationship, how your families feel about it and whether you had to change their minds and how you did it.

Be pro-active about these things, don't wait for CIC to convoke you for an interview to ask you "Why".

[Dominion]

 Thanks, for your reply.
I have already drafted a letter describing how our relation built / and yes I forgot to mention that my wife talks to my mother over phone and my mother-in-law and my wife also had video chats over skype with my mother. They did video chat when I was in India.
We got married after 1 year we met and it we spent most of the times together as we could , I mean me my mother-in-law and my wife live together.

[wilson]

Hi Dominion,

The chance for approval seems very dim considering the facts you mentioned above. Even though your intention is truthful always there is a possibility for suspicion. Any how proceed with the application with all supporting evidence supporting your strong relationship prior to marriage.
 

[VasilisaPrekrasna]

Hi Dominion,
 
I wanted encourage you and disagree with Wilson on your chances being dim.

Your love and commitment to your wife and your family is real and to prove that you need to take the time and effort to present it properly in your application.  Be organized, be neat, be clear and be sincere. Your pictures will show a lot, as will the amount of care you take to complete the application the best possible way. Include some silly little details that show the character of your relationship with your wife. You can even get your family to write something about the two of you. Label your pictures, include many different ones. Explain what your relationship is like, and what is important to your marriage.  Love is love and it shows. Get someone to read it over and give you feedback.

Good luck

[Dominion]

Thanks for encouraging me, I will keep in mind your suggestions , Though I have already prepared a ref letter from myself including the details of our meeting and how the relation grew up and quoted some silly incidents too.

[canadianwoman]

You will need more proof that the relationship is genuine than the average applicant, because of the age difference, the religious difference, the marital history difference, and the unusual engagement and wedding according to your culture.
So show a lot of evidence of your cohabitation, and that your families know of and approve of the marriage.
If you could have the big celebration in India before you submitted the application, that would help.