Merry Christmas and Happy new year for you all,
I started following your thread when I was looking for a living experience in Toronto, the place I intend to let my family settle in. Then I found that it would be a prejudice to relate your experience to geography only. As long as your inner world is positive, you can do miracles. So we don't have to blame others for our failures.
The question that started humming in my head now; Why we are not able to do the same in our home countries? I started looking down to myself recently as I read many different stories about living in Canada.
The question might be silly
, but silly things pay us a visit from time to time, or I might be talking about myself only
Merry Christmas to you all.
Yes, indeed... I wonder this myself everyday now too.
I should now admit that the whole immigration policy here is just a "scam". A few politicians and a few political parties just and simply profit from this and in particular some immigration companies might get paid for this too.
I don't want to say that they 'lie" about Canada being a paradise and/or the only place where one can start a new life, but I suppose it is true that for those like me or those more priviliged among us who already have a good steady job and a steady income, a nice home and a family that treats them good and is happy, should the question be "do I really need to start afresh?"
and if the answer is "no", then change yourself and change your way of life wherever you are and not necessarily go look for another country as to see if you can get what you seek because it might not be that what you seek but only that what you NOT did ask for or seek.
I don't want to say that my story is a failure, I know how good I am in whatever I do and that once I really ge the chance and start to grow, there will be a day that I look back and can't belive I 've been living in a situation as such today at all, but the question is now for me, given me being very VERY forward looking and always seeking for answers in the future and visualizing myself in future, if this country is the place for me, for my family, to be happy in?!
For an European that is raised with certain privilges and let's say better options in life, more choices, this country can fade away and lose its glamour and glitter as soon as one does realize he/she is not going to get what he/she was/is used to.
I suppose this country is only good for the less lucky ones among us who don't have it good right now, who do miss "freedom", "wealth", "peace" and a place to raise their family in peace and safety and who is used to so much misery that working at Tim Hortons or like in my seasonal job case for an entry level pay is considered luxuary.
I honestly can not see myself living in Mississauga or Scarborough, Ethobicoke or Markham, Vaughn or any other place around this town, only downtown is an option and that isn't that much fun either, offers many advantages, but also some misery.
I can go and move to Vancouver, Ottawa and Montreal, but then again, I guess it all looks like the same, industrialized, using a powerful Marketing machine taht is only after your money and not much and really caring for who you are and what you can do but what THEY can do WITH you and YOUR money and resources.
I now also admit and agree with a friend of mine, a Canadian man, old man and one who has been travelling and living all across Canada during his life span that in Canada, people NO LONGER live with each other but ALONG SIDE of each other and that "his Canada" no longer exists!
That is why he has moved to a remote area north of BC and is living a life that might appear to be boring to many of us, but I can tell, he is wise enough to know why and what he has been doing. He is growing his own food, he has acres of land and is living alone, enjoying natural marvels around him, peace and quiet and when he meets people from other places, other nations etc, he really communicates with them, loves them, wants them to be happy and helps them to find their answers and that is as he calls is " the Canadian spirit" that you hardly find anywhere else in Canada anymore.
Canada is nice place, yes, but is it nicer or better than Germany or England or Italy? Is it better than USA as I know that many of you move here from USA and a few of you such educated people from there too?
I don't know ... I am confused, but also still realistic and believing in the good in every human being and still in the fact that here we can be who we are and do and achieve what we want, but I suppose that is something best described to as living an American dream that is no longer existing here, but I better admit across China or India or some parts of Europe. Times are changed and yes, they really are changed!
We can now call the roof and the four walls holding the roof where and within which we live a "home" and no longer a certain country or city as such regarding the fact that this whole planet is no longer a place of many different countries, but just a "global village" and one showing many similarities with other places where we used to live or do come from.
I can only see neighbourhoods that have no "spirit", no " colour" and no " soul", people who pretend to be happy and "Ok", while they aren't.
I was standing at this subway station on Christmas eve looking around me having a coffee and I didn't see ONE real smile and all that I saw was eithe fake or forced! At least in my "home country" I could walk the dog and hear everybody say " hey, Merry Christmas" and smile, but here, sure big city, nobody does care, but even at work where I know people, people have difficulty to be "happy"...
No wonder 5 storey building knows me since I am the only one who genuinly smiles and is "happy' just for the gift of life I live and a life that is worthy living too.
My motto in life: Always Blessings, Never Losses!
If I choose to go back or move to another country, I won't consider it a loss or a failure, but a blessing!
At least I keep myself for me and shall continue being who I am.
Don't romantisize Canada ... even now the government admits they are allowing too many immigrants to this country and has to limit that and want to cut in their spending and supporting immigration as they notice this is neither good for the immigrants nor for Canada!
But yes, as long as you 've people who can make money over your "hopes" and "dreams", then so be it eh?
Ah well .. personal choice, wanna come here, you do it, but be prepared.