Getting to Canada at the US border without a visa due to horrible situation

[MandyUK]

I'm very sorry for your loss!!!

But I'm not understanding why it matters when he started the process! My husband and I have been married since 2006 and jus started sponsorship in 2010, so his question is irrelevant and I wouldn't of even responded!

Im with you on this one, we have been married since 1999 and only this year are doing the sponsorship, it bears no revalance on how long you have been married to when you do the sponsorship, people don't always get married and then apply, in fact this could be as seen as a red flag in the IO eyes.

[chelley]

Im with you on this one, we have been married since 1999 and only this year are doing the sponsorship, it bears no revalance on how long you have been married to when you do the sponsorship, people don't always get married and then apply, in fact this could be as seen as a red flag in the IO eyes.

if you read the OPs situation, the time he is taking is not really related to how long he's been married but the fact that his OWN PR status is likely about to expire, and he's now stuck without an option to sponsor his wife since he's not presently residing in canada and cannot bring her over through legal means... so it's VERY relevant and unfortunate.

as far as getting married and sponsosring goes... if the applicant and the sponsor are separated immediately after the marriage it raises NO flags at all to apply immediately  since it's only logical that married people would/should want to live in the same country! separated spouses who do not apply within a reasonable timeframe actually risk their relationship being questioned.... when you are residing together the timelines become less important and you can do things on your own pace, unless of course your own status is at risk, which is the case here...  but i digress.. the timelines that were mentioned are because his PR status is expiring... the unfortunate circumstances that led to these events also caused him to risk this status and now he's in a bit of a pickle if you will...

[MandyUK]

if you read the OPs situation, the time he is taking is not really related to how long he's been married but the fact that his OWN PR status is likely about to expire, and he's now stuck without an option to sponsor his wife since he's not presently residing in canada and cannot bring her over through legal means... so it's VERY relevant and unfortunate.

as far as getting married and sponsosring goes... if the applicant and the sponsor are separated immediately after the marriage it raises NO flags at all to apply immediately  since it's only logical that married people would/should want to live in the same country! separated spouses who do not apply within a reasonable timeframe actually risk their relationship being questioned.... when you are residing together the timelines become less important and you can do things on your own pace, unless of course your own status is at risk, which is the case here...  but i digress.. the timelines that were mentioned are because his PR status is expiring... the unfortunate circumstances that led to these events also caused him to risk this status and now he's in a bit of a pickle if you will...

and if u read my post again i was agreeing with Mrs proper and sticking up for the OP

[chelley]

But if you read the thread the actual time of the wedding is irrelevant, rather it's the fact that the OP was married out of the country going on 3 years ago and hasn't returned (which he has to do to sponsor his spouse as a PR holder himself)... While I'm sure he could use your support, saying this time frame doesn't matter since it didn't in your cases isn't helping since for him it DOES matter and he knows it...

[awor]

I did not make any judgement... I was simply stating the same as you... it is possible they have had a second child since then.

That part was directed more at steaky

[hkalltheway]

Can't the OP find someone else qualified to look after his wife in her home country, while the OP lives in Canada to remain eligible to sponsor his wife outland?

Besides, I think this is a scam.  In the beginning of this thread, the poster said his child died two days after birth.  But after reviewing his profile, I read two old posts below mentioning his child on Oct 6 and Oct 10 respectively:

You have to be going through our situation to realize how difficult it is. The baby which died, was born on October 17th last year, and died on October 19th. We had another infant who is less than two months old, who was born healthy on August 22, 2011.

I have parents and her parents to look after her, but she completely depends on me emotionally, as she keeps remembering our lost son, and she gets extremely depressed and stops talking to anyone but me, which is why we essentially need to be together. Thanks

[MandyUK]

You have to be going through our situation to realize how difficult it is. The baby which died, was born on October 17th last year, and died on October 19th. We had another infant who is less than two months old, who was born healthy on August 22, 2011.

I have parents and her parents to look after her, but she completely depends on me emotionally, as she keeps remembering our lost son, and she gets extremely depressed and stops talking to anyone but me, which is why we essentially need to be together. Thanks

I know how your wife feels, my son died aged 5 months back in 1988, and it took me years to get emotionaly back on track, but thats the thing, your wife does need time to get over this loss and maybe you will have to put off going to canada till she is ready emotionaly to be without you. I think she needs to talk to someone as well (IMO) as she has a healthy child now and needs to concentrate on this child wellbeing.
As bad as this sounds the IO dont really care about your loss or anything else to be frank. They only care that your application is genuine and true and that you can support you OH. It really wont make a difference to them. If they did care there would be alot of people on here not seperated for years and some in the same situation as you are.
I think you would have to stay with her, give her all the support she needs and when she is ready, then you can apply to go to Canada.

[steaky]

You have to be going through our situation to realize how difficult it is. The baby which died, was born on October 17th last year, and died on October 19th. We had another infant who is less than two months old, who was born healthy on August 22, 2011.

I have parents and her parents to look after her, but she completely depends on me emotionally, as she keeps remembering our lost son, and she gets extremely depressed and stops talking to anyone but me, which is why we essentially need to be together. Thanks

Please accept my apology!

[scarycemetery]

I would suggest going to your local MP office and asking them what the best solution is.

I would highly doubt they would allow your wife to enter. Since you have not been living in Canada, you could lose your PR status. You have to be living a minimum or 2 out of 5 years in Canada. If it's possible for your wife to live without you for some time, then I would suggest you moving to Canada to maintain your status. Once you have lived there for long enough, you can apply to sponsor her. It will be a long process for you since you have not been living in Canada for the past however many years, so you have to catch up on some lost ground.

If your wife absolutely cannot live without you, then maybe Canada is not the right solution.

I wish you all the best and hopefully everything will work out for you.