CHC, Islamabad Spouse Sponsorship Timeline 2009 -2010

[nov3]

Asalam-o-Alaikum

I have a question I was requesed for supplementary forms and some other forms I have filled most of them but the IMM8 form last page I dont understand If anyone has filled it please explain it to me

if u need the link plz e-mail me  @  Alishehzad99 @ hotmail.com

it asks for family information i dont understan which familiy members because two of my brother in laws dont even have passport or shanakhti card
Plz help

[Danny4450]

Well I just want to share my experinec with you .i submit the urdue original nikaha nama  also the english translation,I sumbited 2 copies. Than in 2010 june they ask the original again n i told them it was submited with the applicantion.after that they never asked for it imean  in May 2011once they ask for other documents.so you can make assumtion from this experience.

It just shows how carefully they handle our original documents !

[pakivette]

Not sure exactly, I checked ecase on Monday and status was decision made. I would think it must have changed on Monday or Saturday.

congrats bro, after how many days of ur ecas status changing did u get the passport?

[Khilafah5]

Asalam-o-Alaikum

I have a question I was requesed for supplementary forms and some other forms I have filled most of them but the IMM8 form last page I dont understand If anyone has filled it please explain it to me

if u need the link plz e-mail me   @   Alishehzad99  @  hotmail.com

it asks for family information i dont understan which familiy members because two of my brother in laws dont even have passport or shanakhti card
Plz help

they just ask birthdate adress and martial status u dont need shanakti card info

[pakivette]

Thanks alot... I will for sure keep writing to everyone .. MPs/Senators and who ever I can find to decrease the time lines for Pakistan.

Congratulation brother ......... I remember when I joined the forum I read your posts from 2010 and you were writing to everyone complaining against the process ......... your timely visa should be the message to all of those who are scared to complain against the unfair  processing time (not the immigration officers) ...... thanks for raising your voice and continue to do so if you find time ....... have a happy holy and healthy life together and keep us in your early morning prayers

[mfawad]

Alhumdulillah, my wife received passport and Visa today.. Thanks everyone for support and dua.. Inshallah you guys will be getting one soon..

CONGRATZ

[wes786]

in the forms they specify u send original and translated into english

I second that, u always submit original Nika Nama which is URDU of course ! And you should send English translation if they asked, I'm sure they will ask at some point.

Its not a translation, it is an original Nikah Nama but in English. Now you have an option to get it either in English or URDU, thats why the person didn't bother getting the URDU one because the embassy only accepts documents in English and/or French. However, I got done in URDU as well as English and I sent them both and worked out for us

[resham]

Mubarak ho appko.

Not sure exactly, I checked ecase on Monday and status was decision made. I would think it must have changed on Monday or Saturday.

[Danny4450]

Its not a translation, it is an original Nikah Nama but in English. Now you have an option to get it either in English or URDU, thats why the person didn't bother getting the URDU one because the embassy only accepts documents in English and/or French. However, I got done in URDU as well as English and I sent them both and worked out for us

Exactly, that was my point. No reason for them to ask for an original urdu certificate when they have the original Marriage certificate in english.

[mj1998]

Congrats bro!!!

Alhumdulillah, my wife received passport and Visa today.. Thanks everyone for support and dua.. Inshallah you guys will be getting one soon..

[BLOOMINGFLOWER]

Married or not... you should read this.
Marriage.

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

wow...very emotional....i loved it!... +1 for you

[sahibzada_2010]

I have both Urdu and English nikahnama and I sent only English ones and marriage registration certificate from nadra issued to me. But the thing is that in Urdu nikahnama my wife don't have her last name because at the time of nikah the imam shaib forgot and he wrote everything in the nikah time from her national ID card. However the English nikahnama is similar as the Urdu ones but I have her last name in it. Would that be a problem?

[sahibzada_2010]

Congratulations to all of those who got ppr and redmical. Please remember us in the prayers.

[mainbucha]

Any news from November 2010 aplicants ?

[Danny4450]

I have both Urdu and English nikahnama and I sent only English ones and marriage registration certificate from nadra issued to me. But the thing is that in Urdu nikahnama my wife don't have her last name because at the time of nikah the imam shaib forgot and he wrote everything in the nikah time from her national ID card. However the English nikahnama is similar as the Urdu ones but I have her last name in it. Would that be a problem?

It might be an issue as you know CHC-I is very picky, so you might want to have her last name added on the Urdu copy before they request for an Urdu copy.