CHC, Islamabad Spouse Sponsorship Timeline 2009 -2010

[Khilafah5]

if u want to have adress changed who has to sign the sponsored person or the sponsorer

Whats your timeline? It takes 9-12 months from file transfer until they do the initial assessment of your file where they request more documents and decide whether your marriage seems genuine or not!

You can't change your address just by emailing them. You will have to post and fax a signed letter...

[Khilafah5]

how long did it take for chc to reply to ur e-mail

Hi,

THanks for your previous reply.

I emailed them and it said file is in queue for initial review.

Still nothing yet, I also emailed ISBD about change of address for my wife. Holidays are coming end of december i hope something comes before that.

Just a curuiosity you applied in January, When was the first letter that your wife received after the file transfered, I am talking about the requirements not the AOR from islamabad.

Thanks

[MIKE9292]

THanks

I just faxed them. Do you know how long do they take to update the address on her file.


And is e-cas is same as client application status? For me it says application received on this date by islamabad.

[Danny4450]

Applied in September 2010,
File Transfered end of October 2010.

Its Quiet.

Currently they are working on AUG, SEP and EARLY OCT 2010 AORS. I am guessing your wife would hear something from them in a month or so if your case is straight forward. Also, you have to write a letter of address change and get your wife to sign it and fax it to the embassy.

[Danny4450]

THanks

I just faxed them. Do you know how long do they take to update the address on her file.


And is e-cas is same as client application status? For me it says application received on this date by islamabad.

Thats correct. You must be using your wife's file number and her info to log into her E-case.

Its hard to say when they update it. It usually depends on how busy they are and if your fax made it to the right person.

[MIKE9292]

more than a week 9 days to be exact.

[MIKE9292]

THanks

[hkbangash]

Its not a translation, it is an original Nikah Nama but in English. Now you have an option to get it either in English or URDU, thats why the person didn't bother getting the URDU one because the embassy only accepts documents in English and/or French. However, I got done in URDU as well as English and I sent them both and worked out for us

thank u loadz wes for sayin that...thats exactly wat im pissed off about,,,i never made the urdu one for that reason,,,n now how do i get an original in urdu,,,my husbandz in canada im in dubai,,,my urdu will basically b a translation of the english,,,io dunno im so lost,,,i dont get it,,,i cud jus get it translated n then send it to him to sign n then back to me,,,! never ending circle of crap!

[amirkijaan]

Pakivette conratzzz best of luck for the times to come !!!!!
&
  Congratulations to all of those who got ppr .( i lost count lolz )

Please remember us in the prayers.

[amirkijaan]

Married or not... you should read this.
Marriage.

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

very touching 
1 + for u 

[merrakhawaab]

when will our turn start, killing time pass.
i am feb, AOR,2011

[alpha1980]

when will our turn start, killing time pass.
i am feb, AOR,2011

i m july 2010 Aor

[alpha1980]

lolz.......... gin k nai guzrtey din....... so k guzaro meri tarah

no worried mera aur apka aik he din PPR aie gha. did u email recently CHC?

[depression]

HI GUYZ,,,CONGRATS TO EVERYONE WID GOOD NEW,,,,I ALSO GOT SOME TODAY,,,FINALLY GOT MY REMED,,,YAYYYYYYYY,,,,N ALSO I HAVE A QUESTION,,,,THEYRE ASKIN FOR MY ORIGINAL NIKKAH NAMA IN URDU,,,,WE NEVER MADE THAT,,,,SINCE I KNEW U NEEDED A TRANSLATION,,,SO WE JUST GOT IT ORIGINALLY MADE IN ENGLISH,,,,SO DO I NEED TO MAKE A NEW ONE IN URDU,,,OR WAT?

hello hkbangash......
i have got the same prob as u mentioned i only submitted english original nikkah nama and dont have any urdu one so so i have to make it again or what? what ur doing are u making it in urdu in old dates please help me also im march 2011 aor they may also ASk this same thing in coming moths , so i better make it if it is tht much imp to make .
please also comment mt dear senior fellows. thanks .

[mfawad]

very touching 
1 + for u 

thankz i know i cried to when i read it....