BIZZARE SITUATION !!

[munanicole]

My sister's close friend has found herself in this very bizarre situation and I was wondering if someone has any words of advice for her.
She got sponsored by her new husband and landed in Calgary Dec 2009. We didnt knw this but apparently, their union was not as rosy as we all thought. Only last week, her new husband askd her to pack a bag cos they were going away to attend a wedding in their country (Nigeria), after which they would take a trip to Paris. To her shock, when they arrived her father's home in Nigeria on "a short visit", her new husband handed over some "love emails" to her father, telling him that he (the husband) was done with the marriage cos she was cheating on him with another man (these emails which were actually emails btwn herself and her brother, who she is very close to). He had earlier on collected her all her ID and impt documents, including her passport, PR card, record of landing ... Without giving anyone d opportunity to explain the emails, sender or amyhting, he turned around and left her to her tears, returned to Canada and has since changed his phone numbers. 

She now has no passport or PR card to return to Canada, completely shocked to her bones (i believe she is pretty young and naive, mayb 19years or a little more) and is not sure of how to handle this whole incidence. I am not sure myself, still shocked by the whole story. Very sad.


Thnx

[BlueDragon17846]

Yea, that is quite unfortunate...wow.  Well, you did say that she landed in Calgary, yes?  Are they (Canada) able to pull up her landing record?

[vonster]

Even if she's already landed in Calgary, can the sponsor withdraw the sponsorship?

How old was the husband?

[munanicole]

I hope they will be willing to pull her record of landing, cos her husband has her copy.

From pics of him that I have seen on FB, he should be about 35 or more.

He actually told her family that he has written to CIC to inform them of his withdrawal of sponsorship. I was like ...ummm, I dont think there is anything left to withdraw, seeing as he has already signed the undertaken and the PR application has already been approved, visa granted and all.

[bflava]

if she has already landed, i guess she can report that her stuff is missing and advice to get her stuff sent to a different address, I doubt there will be much the hubby can do once th application has gone tru and she has landed and got her PR cards.. they have her record and  can try and get those back, it will take time but it wont cancel her PR..

well i hope someone can help more on this...

[canadianwoman]

She should ask for help at the Canadian embassy in Abuja. She was landed already, so it is too late for her husband to withdraw sponsorship. If she had run away from him in Canada, he would still have to support her for three years - i.e., he CAN'T withdraw sponsorship once she has already landed.

[BeShoo]

He has agreed to support her for 3 years and once the sponsorship is approved, there is no way he can get out of that. She is still a PR, even if she doesn't have the paperwork. The papers can be replaced, somehow, and he's still responsible for her support regardless of the state of the relationship.

[RobsLuv]

If she has landed already, he cannot withdraw the sponsorship and he is responsible (in Canada) for supporting her for the three years after her landing.  She should immediately apply for a new passport - since she is in her country and can do so easily - and contact the Canadian embassy for a copy of her Record of Landing.  Then she is free to travel back to Canada and settle anywhere she likes - and sue him for divorce and support.  He's not very bright - but he could be a threat to her safety to I'd suggest she settle somewhere far from him and try to make a go of it on her own.  Hard to imagine doing at such a young age but she does have that opportunity if she'll take it.  This should not stop her life.  She can still have a good life in Canada.  There are support systems available for immigrants in the bigger cities.  Another thing: she does not have to come right away.  She is able to be outside of Canada for up to three years and still maintain her PR status - so she has some time to set things up for herself and then come back and build a new life without him, if she wants it.

[juice]

Hi munanicole.  Have you any update on this bizarre situation?

[ythamwong]

 I agree, She should contact Canadian immigration office in her country. He cant withdraw it becuase she already landed. I am from Edmonton .
Good luck

[Leon]

Agreed, he can not withdraw sponsorship after she has landed.  She should contact the Canadian embassy and tell them what happened.  They will have a record of her landing.  She can apply for a new passport and she can apply for a travel document at the embassy to go back to Canada if she wants to but at 19, it might be hard for her to leave her family to build a new life by herself in a foreign country far away.  Maybe that is not what she wants but it's up to her to decide.

[racoon]

Wow that's mean!!!
On starting a new life ... I was 17 when I moved to Canada by my self, and at least she has friends ... and please make sure the jerk pays!!! She can probably even sue him for taking her passport and stuff as it is technically theft (my dad is a lawyer). This should not be left unpunished.
Cheers and good luck to your friend, outraged Raccoon.

[juice]

I agree, sue him! 

[Leon]

When she gets to Canada, she can go to the police and ask them to escort her to his house to get her old passport and other documents and other stuff back.  If he refuses that he has anything, it's his word against hers but she can sue him in small claims court for the cost to get a new passport and other things he might have taken of hers.

However, it would be more beneficial to her just to forget this jerk and move on with her life.  Yes, if she goes on welfare, he would get the bill to pay for it but instead of going on welfare just to get back at him that way, it would be a lot more beneficial for her future if she tries to do something more constructive like looking for a job, doing an apprenticeship, going to school etc.

[canindian]

Just a thought....she probably only came to Canada because of the marriage.  If the marriage has dissolved, then does she really want to come back? While I agree that he pledged his support on the documents, she is good faith agreed that she would not go on assistance.  To come back to Canada, knowing full well that she will now go on assistance doesn't really say much either.  It is these situations that make it so much harder for the rest of us to demonstrate that our relationships are loving and genuine and slows down the process.