thats so heartbreaking.. i feel for u coz my dog is the same, he wont eat or drink if he is sad.. didnt u try talking to ur husband abt bringing ur pet with u? coz i think if ur pet is that attached to u and u to her, ur hubby will understand.. it is really so sad that we have grown to love our pets as our children and they cant come if we go away. for us though, we never considered leaving our dog behind and we will really go thru any measure just to have him with us. if u cannot convince ur hubby to bring ur cat, try to look for a relative or friend who will adopt ur cat and pray and hope that she will be in good hands..
Thank you for your kind words

I have tried everything I could. My husband understands, but his family do not consider a pet as family. To them, it is merely an animal. To first change that attitude is an uphill task in itself. I already have a friend who is willing to take her in & Im hoping for the best here. But I will miss my sweetheart dearly & I know she will miss me too

Shamsia, if it's any consolation, we are staying with my husbands parents until we find a place of our own and they have a dog. The cats are kept safe in their own room and they don't leave it. They are content and the dog doesn't bother them. Could you take your cat and keep her in your room? We have put a child gate up in the door and they can't get out. Perhaps you could set up a kitty litter in the room like we did.
My vet told me before I left Australia that the most stress for an animal is a new owner and a new place. Less stress is a new place but with the same owner. That made my decision to take them with me easier.
You are right! I know its going to be stressful for my kitty, but I honestly do not see any way I could take her with me. Its the whole familial and cultural pressure Im in right now with my in-laws. Im definitely not in a position to be calling any shots

Comes with the territory of being an Indian bride

Shamsia - it is so hard to say goodbye, I cried for about a week, but we took our little fur-baby to his new home about 2 weeks before we left so I had time to get used to him not being around and when I left I knew that he was settled with our friend.
We get regular Facebook updates now, and video of him running around - he's very happy and I'm not sure he would have been over here. It's a long flight and they are pretty strict on keeping them in your yard where I am so he would have struggled with that too.
It's not easy, but she will be ok. It takes time, but she'll adjust....and so will you.
Good luck xxx
Your words are a balm to my sore heart. You give me hope that she will be alright

And besides, she is an outdoor-indoor cat. If by some quirk of fate I manage to being her with me, Im sure she will have to be confined indoors. But thank you for your kind words! Im ever so grateful to you
